BPJ Inc: Let's Talk

  SEX

Now that's out of the way, let's get to the topic of today. As you might have guessed, today's BPJ Inc is about sex. I know many of you are uncomfortable with this subject, so I hope you're using your judgement in matters like these. Also, please refrain from reading this if your laws prohibit it. I can't stop you, but it's on your heads if you get offended or in trouble.

We good? Let's get started.

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First of all, I want to give some advice on getting together with someone for the first time. When you have decided that you want to do the horizontal folk dance and both/all of you are consenting, there are really only three things to remember.

1. Use protection. 

2. No, seriously. Use protection!

3. STIs are no joke. Be safe.

STIs can also be transmitted orally, so do remember to protect your tongue and mouth as well.

If a penis wielding person claims they're too big for a condom, walk away. You can pull a condom from your toes to your knee without it breaking, like so.

If they're too big to use a condom, they're too big to fit inside you. Remove yourself from that situation before you get hurt.

When you've decided to get sticky, remember the lube. Condoms can tear if there's too much friction. Either get that foreplay action going and/or get some condom safe lube. You can never use too much lube. Many a bad situation can come from a torn condom. You do not want that to happen to you.

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Actual Topic.

The topic over at Ben Patrick Johnson's twitter was "What do you like about sex?" so now that the impromptu sex ed portion is over, let's get to that part.

I like sex. It feels good. The intimacy with my partner is amazing. The post-coital cuddling is really comforting. I like to cuddle any time I can, but there's something special about cuddling after a mind blowing orgasm.

I love how sex can make me forget social rules, norms, and regulations. Sex with Boy makes me feel beautiful and sexy. The look in his eyes during intercourse makes me feel like the most important person in the world, and looking at him makes me forget everything except the moment and the gorgeous man I'm with.

"But... you don't like sex. Aren't you asexual?" I don't feel like going into this again. Repeating myself gets boring. Go here instead. It's a great Q&A about being ace.

Kissing, hugging, cuddling, and being so close to someone I love is amazing. 

There's also the mischievous part of me who enjoys talking about sex, especially with my mother. She was a midwife for her entire career and normally has not even an inkling about what shame is when it comes to intercourse and procreation. Growing up, The Talk consisted of my mom dumping a box of condoms in front of me and saying "You know what these are for. Use them." Finding ways to make my otherwise shameless mother blush when talking about sex was a goal of mine. I was 18 or 19 when I finally found it. BDSM. Also, telling all members of my FoO to not ask me questions they really don't want to know the answer to amuses me greatly. They tend get so awkward and flustered.

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Final comment

The point of this thing is that sex isn't scary, nasty, sinful, or dirty. Experienced between consenting adults, it can be beautiful, peaceful, and pleasurable. All humans are different and experience intimacy differently. I love being touched. It doesn't matter if it's in a platonic or sexual way. Some people don't like being touched at all. Some people crave sex and some don't want it at all. Celebrate the differences, cherish the varied experiences, and communicate what you want.

And stay awesome.