This close to the Winter Holidays* I always get a sense of dread making a nest in my innards, and this year it's no different. I don't even really like the holidays. It used to be a time for me to spoil the people I like with gifts, but I have more and more started to resent that notion.
Why? For a few reasons.
1. I like to give people things I think they'll like. I will send these things out whenever during the year. The people who matter to me know this about me. I just feel like a fraud for stressing about getting things for a specific day, so this year, I don't care that my gifts won't be there "on time". Like Dr Seuss wrote "Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter."
2. It pisses me off to no end that so many people think that giving someone something nice for Christmas/Easter/Valentines/holiday of your choice gets you a Get Out Of Jail Free Card for the rest of the year. News flash - It doesn't. Example - My parents have been married for 30 years. My dad still brings my mom flowers at random whenever he finds flowers he thinks she'll like, or gets her her favorite candy when he's shopping, without her having to ask. My mom can make his favorite food just because she feels like it. That is what love is about. Doing nice things for people because it's a nice thing to do. Not blowing a fuse because your partner didn't get you anything for Valentine's Day.
3. You can't buy love. The price tag on the gift does not and should not dictate how much you care for a person. Personally, just being remembered is more than enough. A "Hi" is worth more to me than diamonds or expensive gadgets.
4. The pressure of "Holiday Cheer" is seriously getting on my nerves. There is such pressure to kick back and take it easy on certain days that many people hit a wall and have mental breakdowns just because they're pressured to be happy ALL THE BLOODY TIME.
5. Not everyone is Christian. Stop assuming that. And stop getting pissed off when people wish you Merry Christmas. Just say it back and move on. I am a Shintoist, and I appreciate when someone wishes me Merry Christmas, because they're being kind. Get the stick out of your ass and stop being a cloaca.
This year, I am going to chill out and relax. I am going to send gifts to people I want to send gifts to. I am going to make some food and bake cookies, because I want to. I have my tree up and my stars in the windows and that's all I need in way of decoration. Boy and I will have friends over one of the days between Christmas and New Year's and it will be amazing.
Just have fun and be yourself.
*This is not including Hanukkah and Ramadan, since both have already past for 2013.
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